Showing posts with label — MJ Murphy (@hothingsgirlsay) June 13. Show all posts
Showing posts with label — MJ Murphy (@hothingsgirlsay) June 13. Show all posts

Monday, June 15, 2026

The 5 Most Dangerous Accusations in Modern Politics

5. Misinformed.

4.  Unsafe.

3.  Hatred. 

2.  Extremist

1.   Bigot.

What are the 5 most dangerous accusations in politics? Have you ever noticed that some words can end a conversation before it ever begins and not because they prove anything.  Not because they refute an argument but because the moment that they're used everyone stops looking at the claim and starts looking at the person making the claim.

These are the 5 most dangerous accusations in politics, and once you see the pattern you'll never unsee it.  

#5:  Misinformed.  Misinformed sounds harmless after all people can be wrong. People can be misinformed but notice what happens when this accusation is used instead of asking is that claim true the conversation becomes you've been misled so the focus shifts from evidence to the person and sometimes the accusation is correct but sometimes it's just a shortcut that allows people to dismiss an argument without actually engaging with it.

#4:  Unsafe.  This word becomes incredibly powerful because safety is something everyone values nobody wants people to be harmed but unsafe is often used in ways that go far beyond physical danger.  A Viewpoint can be called unsafe a question can be called unsafe a discussion can be called unsafe and once something is framed as a threat to safety people asking whether the concern. The word itself does all the work.  

#3:  Hateful.  And this is where things get interesting because hatred certainly exists but disagreement and hatred are not the same thing I've said that in so many videos criticism and hatred are not the same thing concern and hatred are not the same thing yet political arguments often blur these distinctions and when they do people stop examining the argument itself because they're examining the character of the person speaking.  

#2:  Extremist.  Extremist is one of the most effective accusations because it has no fixed location.  What is considered extreme changes depending on the time, the culture, and the audience.  Many views once considered mainstream later became extreme.  So if someone is called an extremist, the important question isn't "Is that person extreme?"  The important question is "compared to what"?. 

#1:  Bigot.  This might be the most powerful accusation in modern politics because unlike most criticisms it doesn't really say you're wrong, it says your motives are wrong.  It says your character is wrong.  It says there's something morally defective about you and once someone has been labeled a bigot many people feel no obligation to answer their argument at all.  The label becomes the answer.  I get this comment on so many of my videos.  Bigot without engaging with my argument and so here's the important part.  I'm not saying these accusations are never true.  Sometimes people are misinformed. Sometimes people are hateful.  Sometimes people are extremists.  Sometimes people really are bigots.  The problem is what happens when the accusation replaces the argument because none of these words tell you whether a claim is true.  They tell you what to think about the person making the claim. And if you want to think clearly in the political world, that's the habit to watch for whenever you hear one of these accusations don't just ask is that person bad ask did anyone actually answer the argument that's the question that changes everything.

Sunday, June 14, 2026

MJ MURPHY: Intelligence doesn't protect you from social pressure.

Quick question.  Have you ever noticed that the smartest people you know sometimes believe the most obvious nonsense?  Why?  Why do you think that is.  It's because intelligence doesn't protect you from social pressure.  That's what breaking the spell is about. Not politics.  Not left versus right.  The psychological machinery underneath all of it, the language pattern, the framing, the manipulation, the fear of social consequences.  I've sold 176 copies so far.  If you're tired of feeling like reality itself is being negotiated, get your copy and learn to see the machinery.  

Breaking the Spell, MJ Murphy, 2026. 

Saturday, June 13, 2026

MJ MURPHY: That's the technique because most arguments aren't actually arguments, they're collisions. They're collisions between different definitions.

I have spent years studying psychology, NLP, persuasion, influence, and the most powerful debate technique I have ever found isn't it a comeback, it isn't a fact, it isn't an argument.  It's a question. The most powerful debate technique ever is a question. And the funny thing is almost nobody uses it because it doesn't feel as satisfying as attacking someone.  It doesn't feel as satisfying as proving someone wrong.  And it definitely doesn't feel as satisfying as winning.  The most powerful debate technique is this, I'm going to tell you.  Ask people to define their terms.  That's it. That's the technique because most arguments aren't actually arguments, they're collisions.  They're collisions between different definitions.  Take almost any controversial issue that people spend hours arguing, days arguing, years arguing, and then eventually you discover they are using the same word to mean completely different things.  Words like freedom, justice, equality, rights, violence, man, woman, harm.  Nobody stops to ask, "What exactly do you mean by that?"  And until you answer that question, the debate can't even begin.  One person is playing chess and the other person person is playing checkers.  And both think they're winning.  The reason this technique is so powerful is because definitions expose assumptions.  They expose assumptions the moment someone defines a word. They reveal the hidden beliefs underneath it. Suddenly you're no longer arguing about conclusions, you're examining the foundation those conclusions were built on.  And sometimes something amazing happens.  You discover that you don't actually disagree about the facts; you disagree about the meaning of a single word.  So most people think debate is about having better answers.  I think great debate is about asking better questions.  And one of the best questions you can ever ask is "What do you mean by that?"  Because clarity is Kryptonite to manipulation.  If you're trying to think more clearly in a world full of propaganda, persuasion, and psychological manipulation, check out my guide, Breaking the Spell.