00:00.  There are three things to you need to know if you have a manipulator in your life right now.  It's an acronym called called FOG, fog.  Manipulators will use one of these three methods.  Let's talk about what the acronym means.  F is fear.  O is obligation.  G is guilt.  So now you will be able to categorize them when you hear manipulators speak to you.  Next, one more thing you will be able to determine is what the manipulator is seeking.  You'll always be able to spot one of the four CAVA signs, CAVA.  This is about what they are trying to gain, and this is: CONTROL,  APPROVAL, VALIDATION, and ATTENTION.  

Now that you know this, here is how to deal with these people in your life.  The first thing is mirror there intentions not their actions.  So instead of reacting to their manipulation, reflect back their underlying intent.  If they're being passive aggressive, recognize the insecurity behind it and respond to their need for validation without validating the manipulation itself.  And I promise we are going to go into this so here is some practical application tips here.  1) Identify the core intention behind their manipulative behavior.