36:32. I guess these are all part of DISCIPLINE?
36:34. These are all part of the AUTHORITY.
36:36. And one of the components of AUTHORITY is DISCIPLINE? For me, the way I categorize it is it's all underneath that DISCIPLINE piece and SELF-MASTERY, which you mentioned.
36:45. The first video of yours that I ever watched, probably before you saw any of me, was a dopamine detox video that you did. You were talking about discipline a lot, and I want to give you a hack that maybe you can use and try it out. How does reading all this research and stuff on dopamine detox translate to your mammalian brain? Because you're mammalian brain does not speak English at all; it cannot speak a language. So when I'm training operatives or just one-on-one clients, I'm always thinking of how can I make this person understand this at a mammalian level? How can I teach this to a dog? So how would I make discipline important to a dog? And in our mammalian brain the one thing that we really need to think about is imagery, that's we're visual creatures. We don't have a relationship with our future-self, and the way that I define discipline is my ability to prioritize my Future-Self ahead of my present-self. So future-me is more important than me right now. If you have discipline, you're looking backwards with gratitude, you're looking forward with concern. So how do I get my brain to start understanding that concept? And what I will do with these clients, there's an app, I can't remember the name of it, there's an app on your phone that can make you look like 90 years old. Have you seen these things? So I'll have them use this app, print that out, and hang it in like 10 places in your house so that every single day you're developing a relationship with this older version of yourself. And what do you do with like after a thousand repetitions? You're shopping for like a Honda Accord and you finally buy a Honda Accord. What happens, like they're everywhere, but you didn't tell your brain to look for those cars. Your brain learned it through repetition and exposure. So you're doing the exact same thing except on purpose and not on accident. The Honda Accord thing is an accident; the hanging old version of me pictures all over the place is definitely on purpose.
so it's apparent social and financial your social skills and how do you manage your money
EFFECTIVENESS IN SOCIAL SITUATIONS: CONFIDENCE
40:23, HUGHES. If I were to sum up confidence in one sentence that no one ever heard but that makes the most amount of sense is "a willingness to be socially injured." Just a full openness to social injury. Vulnerability? Yeah, to where I'm no longer concerned with that level of thing. And the way that I describe confidence is let's say that the average person makes $60k a year. And if that person were to walk into a super expensive department store, like Hermes, I think is super, crazy expensive. If they walked into a Hermes, they're going to see their cheapest bag is like $14 grand, $15 grand. They're going to walk in there and as soon as they step in they think they're being judged. And they've proven this. Even a neutral facial expression that walking into that store will look judgmental.
