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6 Things Psychopaths Hate The Most

There are a few results that I resent from having been friends with a psychopath.  One, they hijack your time. They have no appreciation of your time, and they will waste it if you let them.  They're willing to waste it because they'll do almost anything for extended attention especially at great cost to you.  Again, they could give a rat's ass about your time or what it means to you. Two, being involved with them means an erosion of your creative identity.  You will find that you've been used as an enabler of their psychopathy.  You will find yourself a hull if yourself, your life, your energy, your creative genius gutted by the time you figure out that you've been abused by these characters.  And if you're loyal to your friends because it's one of your convictions, you'll be on the tether to the psychopath linger than you'd like.  Don't let them mortgage your life, your time, and good will, for they won't think twice about having consumed it from you.  Embarrassment or remorse is not in their make up.  So don't give them your time. Three, psychopaths ultimately have no skin in the game of your success or happiness.  They may help with an abstract insight, but they're not going to involve themselves in your strategies.  They're cold, calculating, and emotionally detached.  Even if they spot that someone has committed a crime like fraud or theft, there's no conviction behind their observation.  And four, they are the ultimate predators, for they will pret upin your good nature, have contempt for your kindness and politeness, and use those features to justify destroying you thinking that you're too big of a rube to deserve any moral consideration.


1. Anyone who has qualities they envy
2. Submitting to the power of others
3. Being outsmarted or beaten
4. People who can see through them and not be manipulated
5. When their victims become indifferent to them
6. When they get found out and have to move on

Similarly in personal/intimate relationships, psychopaths will be actively irritated by someone with strong boundaries and self respect who doesn’t tolerate any of their nonsense and quickly calls them out on their attempts to prod and poke at the boundaries of people to see how much they can get away with.

They often disparage and quickly move on from such people with healthy boundaries and self respect, because they realize these people are “hard” targets that won’t put up with their provocative and reaction seeking behavior.

The psychopath actively hates people who aren’t buying what they’re selling in terms of glibness, and fake charm, but that’s their problem, not the other person’s!

That’s what you find when you have that self respect and self love, that a relationship with a disordered person won’t even work, because they’ll get so irritated that they’re not able to get under your skin and they’re not able to exploit you”   --Jackson Mackenzie – see here.

5. When You Are Completely Indifferent to Them 

Psychopaths love attention, but the nuance that many people miss here is that they don’t care whether this is positive or negative attentionThey just care that they are getting strong attention, even if this is the form of someone hating them. They’d rather have this than the person not being bothered about them anyone.


Increasingly unacceptable behaviour and boundary violations are a deliberate tactic psychopaths use on their victims.

One thing victims of psychopathic abuse will notice, often looking back, is the increasingly outrageous behaviour and boundary violations that the psychopath carried out as their relationship with them unfolded. The sort of behaviour that leaves the victim wondering “Did they just say that? Did they just do that?”

Yes, they did just say that, or do that. Increasingly unacceptable behaviour and boundary violations are a deliberate tactic psychopaths use on their victims. It is part of the “gas-lighting” and identity erosion for which they are renowned. The victim starts to think they must be going mad, for no one would just act that outrageously and expect to get away with it. They start to question their own sanity and think they must be misreading the situation.

It is important to trust your own judgement when dealing with toxic people. If something doesn’t feel right something probably isn’t right. When you understand this type of behaviour for what it is and you see the intentions behind it, it becomes easier to resist and call the psychopath out on their behaviour. Let’s look at this facet of psychopathic abuse in more detail.

Why Do Psychopaths Do This?As we mentioned above, psychopaths love to “gas-light” their victims. Gaslighting refers to behaviour which is designed to chip away at a person’s sense of reality and question their own judgement and sanity.

It derives it’s name from the 1938 stage play Gas Light and its two film adaptions in 1940 and 1944. The films feature a murderous man who plays a variety of tricks on his wife to make her think she is going crazy, including dimming the lights in the house without telling he that he is the cause of this by switching on the normally unused lamps to conduct his clandestine activities in the attic.
In typical psychopath fashion the husband tries to deny to his wife that the lights are dimming at all, despite knowing full well that they are dimming and he is the one that is causing it. He is playing mind games with his wife to erode her sense of reality. The gas-light metaphor has made it’s way into psychological literature.
 
[Hare does have a psychopathy checklist.  It's interesting.  Check it out.]

Engaging in increasingly outrageous behaviour in the form of invasive, underhand or otherwise unacceptable comments or behaviour is just a slight variation on this general theme of gas-lighting. It is part of the identity erosion process and you will find it tends to be a gradual process as the psychopathic treats it almost like a game.

It will start with just the odd underhand comment here or there, which is laughed off as “just a joke” or “banter”. If you express offence then they will try to make out you are just over-reacting and move on. The first couple of times you may be able to write it off as a “bad day” for them.

Gradually though you will find the boundary violations become more and more common and they gradually chip away at your self esteem and identity. If they get away with one little thing, they will try a little more and then a little more still. They slowly wear you down psychologically with incrementally more unacceptable behaviour, but just gradual enough that kinder natured people will not notice or want to kick up a fuss.

Someone who manages to take a step back and look at the issue from a broader perspective will see that it isn’t acceptable though. If they compare what they accepted as “normal” treatment 3 or 6 months ago , or before they met the psychopath, versus what they routinely accept now, they will see the game the psychopath has been playing.

Keep reading.  It's fascinating, but you'll also need to protect yourself from the psychopath's gradual erosion of your identity. 

Thursday, May 18, 2023