The number one thing you need to compare yourself with other people on is comfort. That's it. Is can I be more comfortable than the other person in this conversation, because our brains are naturally wired to compete. We can't turn competition off, but we can change what they're focused on. And if they're focused on comfort, we win a lot more conversations.
Comfort. How does that manifest? Is that just like being physically comfortable? What is that? [chuckle]
Yeah, it would be physical comfort, so one of the challenges I give to people is for your first week, all, the only thing I want you to focus on . . . I'm not going to give you this long list to go look into your phone and have to read it before every meeting. The one thing I want you to focus on this week is can you move slower than the other people in the room? That's it. Just adjusting the speed limit on your body. So if you were standing in a swimming pool, how fast would your arms and legs move if you were underwater? And make that the speed limit for this entire week. That's all I want you to focus on, and that makes so many changes in people's mind, because we change our body and how our emotions are feeling.
And there's one thing that fear does, it speeds up our body so if you see someone doing these rapid jerking movements you're seeing mostly fear or stress in their body.
