What I want to try to do tonight is give you something that I pray and I hope will stick inside of your brain for the rest of your life. And I'm going to give you something that is going to flare up your ego's defense mechanisms a little bit, but I want you to promise me are you willing to suspend any of the ego stuff that comes up, any of the "that's not me. I would never do that," or the "I'm way more perfect than what he's describing." So as we kick this off, I want you just to think about the one thing that you are ashamed of. The one thing maybe you hate yourself for the most, and you don't need to say it, you don't need to type it in, and what if I told you that carrying that, carrying the shame or guilt about that, makes you a bad person. And that shame is not morality. It's cowardice. It's absolute cowardice. And if you keep clutching onto it, people are not going to get a gut feeling to trust you. You're not going to be followed easily unless you fake it for the rest of your life. And you're never going to be free
1:32. Let me first tell you a trick that your brain is playing on you right now if you're willing to admit it and some people aren't ready for that and that's okay. But it convinces you that guilt or shame equal "I'm a good person." It equals goodness. So "I feel terrible, therefore, I must care. I must be a decent person if I feel like s*** about this thing that I did." that's a lie that is absolutely completely false. Guilt is what I will call masturbation of the ego it keeps you the center of your own pity party and you can Replay that little Loop you rob everyone around you of a stable leader or a present parent if you've ever thought like holding on makes me better then I will issue you a huge congratulations here that thought is why people don't trust you and you've just uncovered it.