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HOW TO MANIPULATE ANYONE

One, never explain yourself under pressure so that automatically means submission and you might want to fire back with you know I don't think you meant to but that question is designed to put me in a position of justifying myself and that's not a role I'm going to take right now.

Two, never argue about your motives so just don't do it just openly call it out like well the way you said that puts me into a place of Defending what kind of person I am.

Three, never take the bait on any character question any character question at all like never argue about who you are.

Four, never apologize just to de-escalate ever so if you're in a with a manipulator the apology that they're trying to force out of you is an admission of guilt not saying that you're going to fix anything.

Five, never match emotion to prove your point so never match somebody's intensity.

Six, never accept somebody else's language without precision.  So words like "disrespect" or "abuse" or "betrayal," they can totally hijack a narrative.  So you might just say, "Those words all carry some kind of frame, and if I accept those words what you just said I'm not speaking for myself anymore.  So that's a big one.

Seven, never accept any binary traps.  Like either "yes or no."  The either or question.  There's always nuance to it and always seek specificity.  Always get into specifics.  "When you said this, what specifically did you want to talk about?  Like what was your intention?  What's the ideal outcome here for you?"

Eight, never try to win through just logic.